PLEASE DO NOT SUPPORT ACE DAY OF VISIBILITY.
Guys seriously, this is very upsetting for me as someone who identifies as trans and has trans friends. We’ve tried bringing the issue to theasexualityblogs attention and they don’t seem to want to acknowledge that what they are doing is harmful and not okay.
This was their response to my friend asking them to address the concerns (which are listed in the first post):
They are completely unwiling to acknowledge that what they are doing is not okay when they are being told by people in the trans community that it is not okay. It is very hurtful and it is NOT OKAY that they are ignoring this.
Please, Please, I’m begging you to reblog this!! Even if you aren’t ace or trans, it’s important that the ace community doesn’t do this. Please.
They gave an answer to someone else who asked if this could be done during Ace week. The reasoning behind not doing it in October boils down to “some people don’t want to wait.” So they are doing this to appease lazy, inconsiderate people who can’t wait until it’s their turn.
That is so gross. That is just really gross.
For fucks sakes guys, how the hell are people going to take the asexual community seriously when we have 1) no issue taking over TRANS EVENTS to uplift ourselves, 2) inner fighting over whether or not alloromantic (specifically hetereomantic) asexuals are even welcome in the community, 3) a blog with a massive amount of supporters speaking “for us” unwilling to talk about or make a post about how we need to WAIT OUR TURN and let other movements have their moment without trying to take over their idea almost identically.
By refusing to postpone the even to Asexual Awareness Week, theasexualityblog is being completely rude and hurtful towards the trans community, and especially so to trans aces. They’re choosing to take over an idea meant for trans people and refuse to acknowledge the trans voices that are telling them that what they are doing is not okay.
And yes, I’m taggging them. Because they need to see this. And I know they see it - I know they’re ignoring posts that are telling them that their actions are harmful.
In ignoring trans voices, especially in this matter, you are being extremely insensitive and I would go so far as to say transphobic.
The only things that would make this movement OK is:
- If it was postponed to Asexual Awareness Week
- It was given another name (one that doesn’t directly steal from Trans Day of Visibility
- It doesn’t alienate aces who don’t use romantic orientations as identifiers
- It stops lumping aromanticism and asexuality together; those are two different orientations and it’s already been said that the ace and aro communities would rather have their own days to celebrate, not a shared one.
You are actively ignoring Trans voices. You really need to stop.
First, I’m on mobile, so please forgive any typos or otherwise abnormal typing. My being on mobile is also why I didn’t go more in-depth with the ask I was sent and why I’m not checking reblogs.
Second, it was never my intention to encroach on the Trans movement. If you’d read any further in my blog, you’d see plainly that I have spread awareness for Trans causes on multiple occasions as well as been vocal against intruding on the movements already in place, namely TDOV and Blackout. I’ve advocated agains several ace movements recently for this exact reason.
Second, I went with a day that was suggested to me and which, because of wordplay, I thought was clever. I wasn’t aware that there was a statute of limitations on a movement or a period of waiting that needed to occur. I don’t mean that sarcastically at all, please understand. I simply wanted to give aces a day outside of our 1 week a year to come together as a community. It was never meant to override any other community.
Third, the title of the post was never meant to be the name of the movement. It was in reference to the asks I’d received and I just wanted to tie everything together. I never intended it to be called “Ace Visibility Day”, as proven by the hashtag in use “Ace Day”. I would never be so blatantly rude or arrogant or unoriginal.
Fourth, it does not lump aromanticism and Asexuality together. I am fully aware that the two are separate and there’s actually an ask I answered about this (again on mobile, so I can’t link right now) that addresses that I intended the two to be separate. The aro-spectrum aspects of the post were meant to be directed toward Asexuals with those aro-spectrum romantic orientations, not allosexual aromantics.
Lastly, I am more than willing to change the date and guidelines of the project. If we need to change a card to represent Asexuals who do not claim a romantic orientation, that’s perfectly acceptable. I never said I wasn’t open to changes.
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